What does obedience mean to you?
Is it something quite negative?
Obedience can mean obedience to some person or
organization that is trying to control us for their own selfish reasons.
But is this what obedience is always like? Can
we try to imagine what healthy obedience might look like?
What does it look like when we obey a good
person, someone who cares about us and our freedom? What does it look like when
the person we obey doesn’t want to control us, but to help us?
When a doctor prescribes medicine and we take
it, that is obedience. We are relying on someone’s judgement and doing what
they tell us to do. We may not think of it as obedience, but it fits any
reasonable definition of the word.
When a mother says to her child, “Go put your
coat on so we can visit Grandma,” and the child does as he is told, that is
also obedience.
There is obedience in marriage as well—I mean
healthy forms of obedience in healthy marriages. My husband goes to bed early
so he can get up for a long commute to work. When he gets into bed, he
sometimes asks me for a glass of water. When he does, I go and get it for him.
This act of serving someone I love and am devoted to gives me deep pleasure.
It is a kind of obedience.
When a teacher assigns homework, and a student
completes it, that again is obedience.
And so we can see that healthy obedience means
accepting help from the person who can help us. It means cooperating in a task
we want to see completed. It means expressing love, gratitude, and respect to
someone who deserves it. It means being willing to learn from someone who knows
more than we do and whose job is to teach us. It also means giving another
person what they have a legitimate claim to.
Sometimes obedience means stopping doing something
when someone asks us to stop. When a woman rejects a man, and the man walks
away and stops bothering her, that is obedience.
Obedience is not a bad thing invented by
tyrants, but a good thing that tyrants know how to abuse and exploit.
Obedience has a genuine purpose. It exists for
the sake of human beings. It contributes to our relationships, our dignity, our
thriving. It is part of the daily working of any functional family, of any
healthy community.
Though we all obey any number of reasonable
rules and requests on a daily basis, we have negative associations with the
word obedience that make obedience seem like an affront to our freedom. But is
this true?
Freedom always requires some kind of structure
that people agree to follow. The constitution of a country can only guarantee
individual freedom if the citizens of that country agree to obey that
constitution. Where there is no structure, no obedience, there can be no
freedom either.
When we choose to obey, it is not because we
hate freedom. Often it is the exact opposite. We love freedom, and our
obedience is an investment that allows our freedom to exist and to grow. I
think the best kind of obedience arises from personal devotion, but even when
we obey for purely practical reasons, obedience is on the side of
our freedom and not against it.
To say that obedience is good in general, is not
to say that it is the right choice in every situation. Sometimes rebellion is
the right choice. Given the conflicting demands that are placed on all of us, obeying one demand often means rebelling against others. So like
obedience, rebellion is part of life, a good and necessary part of life. But we
cannot understand rebellion unless we understand obedience. Obedience comes
first.
Obedience is a choice. It should not be confused with compulsion or subjugation. That is like confusing the giving of a gift with armed robbery.
Obedience is having power and choosing to devote it to something beyond oneself.
Not all obedience is good, but obedience can be good, and we cannot have a good life without obeying something.
Obedience is a choice. It should not be confused with compulsion or subjugation. That is like confusing the giving of a gift with armed robbery.
Obedience is having power and choosing to devote it to something beyond oneself.
Not all obedience is good, but obedience can be good, and we cannot have a good life without obeying something.
If we cannot imagine what a good kind of
obedience looks like, then the idea of God must necessarily be dark to us
because the idea of God is the idea of a being who deserves our obedience.
What I know about obedience, I learned from
George MacDonald. The rest of this article is an exploration of what MacDonald
has to say about this topic.
We are fortunate that we have one of his very
early sermons. Though MacDonald preached without notes, his sermon was recorded
by a stenographer and published in a Victorian newspaper. He preached this
sermon in 1857 when he was known as a young up-and-coming poet but before he
became a celebrated literary figure.
In this sermon, MacDonald expresses an insight
which he would go on to expand and develop years later in his published work.
Though the later published sermon is beautifully developed, the original has a
delightful freshness to it. Here is part of what he says (I’ve added paragraph
breaks for clarity):
[God] is in the heaven above us and in the earth under our feet: in the heart of our truest friend, and when the child in the street looks up to us with reverence and love, it is the voice of the Father that wins upon us and blesses us.
Let us endeavour to get a conviction of this, and not to believe that in our truth and simplicity we are more worthy than God Himself, for He is infinitely more true and simple than we can be at the best.
And do not let the great attributes of God occupy your mind as the greatest thing. God might have been present everywhere, and able to see and to do everything, but might not He not be this God of ours [I think MacDonald means, “he still might not be this God of ours”]. He might even be a God of Love, —in the sense of a form of benevolence, —but that is very different to His childlike devotion to us.
God would do the very best for us, and knowing that, how can we hang back and not follow His Word and Will? And how can we distrust even when the hard thing comes upon us? If we praise God for anything in the next world, it will be for the hard things we have suffered, and the more that He did not like to give them us, yet, for our good, He did it.
True rest we shall never find without becoming true children to God, whose heart toward us is true as ours is toward a child, and the child toward us. (Wingfold No. 19, pages 25-26)
I want to try to explain this a little, to
unpack it because here is a little epitome of MacDonald’s understanding of the
good news. I cannot cover here every issue that this passage raises, but for
now I will focus on two core ideas, God’s childlike devotion, and following
God’s will.
Let me start by quickly summarizing what
MacDonald is saying: God is so good, so
devoted to us with childlike devotion, so simple and true, so overflowing in
blessings for us. God does his best for us. Given all this, how can we distrust
God even when things are very hard? And why do we not do what God says? We need
to become true children of God as God himself is a true child to us.
For MacDonald, even to say that God is a God of
Love does not adequately express the goodness of God. Because when we speak of
a God of Love, it is possible that we just mean a benevolent God. A benevolent
God is a God committed to doing good things for us. Yes, God is benevolent. But
benevolence doesn’t say enough. It
says nothing, for instance, about how God actually feels about us or relates to
us. It says nothing about God’s affection for us and desire to be near us. It
says nothing about how God is so true to us that he suffers with us
rather than give what is not good for us. It says nothing about God’s
childlike devotion towards us.
It may seem unusual or even unorthodox to speak
of God as a child. But this is what is implied when we say that Jesus is both
God and the Son of God. Jesus is a child in his relation to the Father. And so,
just as parenthood is an eternal aspect of God’s nature, so is childhood.
MacDonald says that there could be no
childlikeness in Jesus unless there were also childlikeness in the Father. Why
is this? Because Jesus is just like the Father, and does only what he sees the
Father doing.
The best parents, in addition to being mature
adults, also have a childlike quality—a simplicity, a directness, a truth, a
devotion, an affection, an easy, spontaneous reverence. What makes Jesus a perfect child is that
Jesus receives into himself the fullness of his Father’s nature and reveals it.
Jesus is childlike with the Father’s own childlikeness.
God reveals himself in the child. God reveals
himself in the infant Jesus and also in the adult Jesus—who is still very much
the child of his Father. God reveals himself in the eternal Son. God reveals
himself in every child, and most clearly in the child who is most childlike.
Any child or adult who is childlike is like Christ who is himself like the
Father.
This is the deeper meaning of Jesus' words,
“Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, and whoever receives
me, receives not me but him who sent me” (Mark 9:37). Where there is
childlikeness, there is God. To be true children of God, we are, like Jesus, to
receive God’s own childlikeness into ourselves and then, like Jesus, reveal it,
let it shine out of us.
It is in childlike trust that we discover the
meaning of faith. Faith is not saying we believe certain things, or even
convincing ourselves that we believe certain things. It is not attending church
or calling ourselves Christians. It is nothing like that at all. Faith is so
much simpler, more essentially human than any such action. Faith is trusting as
a good child trusts a good parent—with affection, with devotion, with a sense
of security that comes from knowing our parent takes care of us, and also with
a ready willingness to do what our parent says.
For MacDonald, the one part of faith that we
have any control over is doing what our good parent says, which is obedience.
We have no control over what we feel, but we can choose what we do. The
obedience comes first and the feelings of security and devotion are the natural result.
Obedience in its ideal form means doing what our
mother, our father says to do, because we trust them and love them and know
that this responsiveness to their will is the way to honor and thank them.
As I have said, obedience is part of any healthy
relationship. When a parent says to a child, “it’s time to put your coat on,”
and the child does it, that is, in miniature, what a relationship between a
parent and child should be. It is what the relationship between Jesus and the
Father is like.
And it goes both ways. MacDonald was blessed
with a wise and loving earthly father. MacDonald said that his father never
denied him anything he asked for. There is no reason why a good parent should
not obey a good child, just as the good child obeys the good parent. While the
child is not yet an adult, the parent has a special responsibility for
exercising mature judgement. But if what the child wants is good, it is the
most natural thing in the world for the parent to say yes and give it to the
child.
Jesus said, “If you then, who are evil, know how
to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in
heaven give good things to those who ask him!” Like MacDonald’s father, God
himself is obedient to his children.
Though I think this is clear, Christians sometimes cannot believe it. We cannot believe that we should ask for the good things we want and need. God provides for all of our needs anyway. When a good parent brings a child into the world, they do all they can to provide for that child. Why then do we not ask? What if we need a parking spot? Is that too petty to ask for? Not at all. Isn’t a parking spot a good thing? Then by all
means ask! Jesus tells us to ask. I don't think Jesus is above praying for a parking spot.
Jesus knows that his father always hears him and trusts his
father to supply his every need. If we cannot trust God enough to ask for small things, I think it becomes an unconscious impediment that prevents us from wholeheartedly asking for the greater gifts, including the Holy Spirit.
MacDonald was careful to distinguish the good
kind of obedience from unhealthy kinds. He said of Jesus that “a
kingdom of exulting obedience, not of acquiescence, still less of compulsion,
lay germed in his bosom” (Miracles of our
Lord, Chapter 5). Jesus came to exemplify an ideal obedience. He came to
reveal the perfect obedience that was in his heart and to found a kingdom based
on everyone in it displaying this kind of obedience. Such obedience has nothing to do with compulsion. It has
nothing to do with grudging acceptance. Instead, it is a kind of triumphant
service. The kingdom of heaven exists where there is mutual, willing, eager
service. As MacDonald says, in the kingdom of heaven, the most honored person is not the one who
receives the most service, but the one who is the servant to all.
When we serve someone for the pleasure, the
delight of serving them, of satisfying their good wishes, of honoring them as
we want them to be honored, we see what obedience is like in its perfect form.
We see also what the kingdom of heaven is like.
But in this world, it is clear that the obedient
are taken advantage of. People claim our obedience only to diminish our
dignity. In this world, obedience often means compulsion and exploitation. Are
we to obey, or are we to say no?
For MacDonald, the answer is simple: our only
obligation is to obey our heavenly Father. MacDonald writes, “By obedience, I
intend no kind of obedience to man, or submission to authority claimed by man
or community of men. I mean obedience to the will of the Father, however
revealed in our conscience” (Hope of the
Gospel, Chapter 1).
Though we are to serve one another, we do not
owe anything to anyone where it violates the will of the Father. I bring water
to my husband for his own sake, but I also know it is what God wants me to do. When my
husband makes any reasonable request, it is also God’s request.
In all the time I’ve known him, I don’t remember
my husband ever asking me to do anything wrong, and I don’t think he ever will,
but if he did, it would not be God asking. To obey him at such a
time would be to disobey God. Both for his sake and for God’s sake, I would
have to do what was right and not what my husband asked me to do.
How do we know the will of our Father? MacDonald
says it is revealed in our conscience: not by our conscience, but in our
conscience. What I mean is that the source of the suggestion may be outside of us, but whether it is a good suggestion or not has to be determined internally, in our heart, in our conscience. The suggestion may come from a
friend who gives us advice, a stranger, a book, our own thought process, or from prayer. But whatever the source of the suggestion, we need to inwardly test it to
see if it is right.
What MacDonald is saying, I think, is that there is a fundamental step of individual
responsibility here. We cannot avoid responsibility. We cannot defer
responsibility to some external authority. Ultimately, we have to rely on our
own personal, imperfect capacity for determining right from wrong, good from
bad, true from false, beautiful from ugly.
Our conscience is imperfect, but it is still
authoritative. It will make mistakes, but we still have to follow it. What MacDonald claims is that God, in his devotion to us, will
always correct us and teach us when our imperfect conscience makes us do the
wrong thing.
But if we don’t act from conscience, we are sure
to go wrong. To not act from conscience is to refuse to take personal moral
responsibility for our actions. The bad kind of obedience is the kind that
violates our conscience or prevents us from inwardly testing what we are being
asked to do.
Sometimes we obey others or go along with the crowd because we want to
avoid personal moral responsibility. But that is not possible. Such obedience
is not healthy and not right. We must act from conscience.
The Father wants two things from us: to know
what is right, and to do what is right. There can be no true obedience without
an active conscience. The obedient conscience discerns what is right, and the
obedient will does it.
What is right? Whatever is just, fair, honest,
caring, compassionate, good, and loving. How do we know what is right? We are
born with a simple ability to recognize what is right, and we can develop this ability by using it.
And so in obeying God, I am not only trying to
please God out of love and devotion, but also allowing myself to be transformed by God
through a process of moral and spiritual education. To be clear, by moral
education, I mean an education in what God wants me to do, and not what God wants other people to do. This is a
point that MacDonald makes repeatedly. Our moral education does not qualify us
to moralize, but to be good ourselves.
However, sometimes we may be called to teach
others about right and wrong. And being good ourselves means that we know how to skillfully hold accountable
those around us.
In God’s moral and spiritual education, my conscience has an irreducible
authority. If God himself ever told me to do something wrong, I would be right
to refuse. In fact, I would have a duty to refuse. MacDonald is clear about this. A God who tells me to do
something morally wrong would not be worthy of being God. I would have to do
whatever I could to rebel against such a God. My responsibility is to do what
is right. And I am fortunate that this happens to be just what God wants from me.
Someone might ask, “Why not do what is right
simply because it is right? Why bring
God into it?”
This question has to be answered differently
depending on whether the person asking is a Christian. For a Christian, the
answer, I think, goes something like this:
I give my husband a glass of water for his own
sake. Why should I do it for his own sake? Why shouldn’t I do it because it is
the right thing to do? Having love and devotion for my husband, I can’t help
but want to express it. People can tell when you are doing a good deed because
“it is the right thing to do.” There can be a chilliness to such actions. They
may be good deeds, but they are not as good as actions that come from devotion.
And so, when it is possible for us, let us act out of love and devotion to our
Father. Let’s do the good thing that our Father wants both because it is good
and all the more because it is what our Father wants.
It is worth saying here that there is nothing
exclusive in our devotion to God. The more we are devoted to God, the more we
can be devoted to those God has given us to serve.
Everything that God wants is right, but it is
not an abstract right. It is not something that we could ever reason out in any
detail from general principles. God has a unique vision for each of us. And so
general moral principles, as good as they are, are not enough to guide those who follow such a God.
But for those who are not Christians, the answer
has to be a little different. What’s wrong with doing what is right for the
sake of its rightness? Why do we need God involved? Doing what is right,
according to whatever light we have, is the best thing anyone can do. By all
means, do it. You can be sure that trying to do the right thing will not lead
you wrong in the end. If you are doing what is right out of devotion to others,
including human beings, animals, plants, and the environment, that is all the
better. I have no desire and no reason to interfere with your good work and
your lively conscience.
But for me, the revelation of the perfect
childlike Father in the perfect childlike Son has a poetry to it that is very
precious. Without such a God, I would be desolated. For me, God is real,
and I love God. And so it is just the most natural thing in the world that I
should want to do what God wants me to do.
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MacDonald has a lot more to say about the role
of obedience in coming to understand God, how it is the only way, and how
attempts to understand God with the intellect alone never
get to the truth. He also has a great deal to say about how to read the New Testament through the lens of obedience. I hope to write more about these topics in another article.